YOUR SELF-WORTH IS NOT DETERMINED BY YOUR NET-WORTH

It has become so much easier these days to measure the worth of a person by what he has and not who he is.

If the person is not wealthy financially and materially, then he is not to be reckoned with as he has been termed a nobody.

I have seen fans of celebrities argue or abuse each other saying things like "how much do you have in your bank account to criticize this person".

Or that you see them argue amongst themselves about which celebrity has more money, more properties and even more followers without which, the one with less of these things is of less significance. 

Society itself has lost sight of what truly matters in or about a person and has placed so much significance on the amount of physical assets ( the amount of cash in a person's bank account and the level of material assets the person possesses).

Because we have attached self-worth to net-worth, we forget that life is much more valuable than things. 

We now decide who lives a more valuable life due to their financial status, the kind of cars they drive, the home they live in or the brand of clothes they wear.

Individually, people are more concerned about what they want to have in life and not who they should become.

It is more of I want to have this and that and not I want to become this forgetting that life is not all about what you get but who you become.

Read also : It is not what you get but who you become

SO THEN, WHAT IS NET-WORTH AND WHAT IS SELF-WORTH? 

Your net-worth entails all your cash and physical assets such as how much you have in your bank account, the number of cars you have and ride, the number of houses you own and the kind of home you live in and every other material possession you can think of.

While your self-worth entails who you are as a person ;

• your emotions (how deeply you love a person or group of persons irrespective of their social or financial standing, how you relate with people around you, your empathy towards others especially the disadvantaged or less privileged ).

•  morals ( your social, cultural and belief system such as your sincerity, honesty, loyalty, patience, perseverance and resilience in life)

• ethics (your guiding principles as to how you conduct yourself such as being respectful, honest, full of integrity, fairness in judgement, loyal and faithful)

In essence, your self-worth has to do with who you are from the inside (what you perceive of yourself) while your net-worth has to do with what you are from the outside (what you perceive to have).

While having a net-worth is good and great because it provides us some level of comfort and solves most problems, it becomes irrelevant when you have no self-worth. 

For some people, low net-worth means low self-worth and high net-worth means high self-worth. These people equate their net-worth to their self-worth without which they feel they are nothing or have nothing to show for themselves.

When such people lose their net-worth or when it drops, They lose sight of their identity(who they truly are) and their self-worth drops or diminishes.

While your net-worth can be measured, your self-worth can never be measured. There will always be a shortfall of your net-worth as it shrinks any time you give or experience a loss.

You will also always feel like you never have enough as there will always be someone who has more money than you, earn more than you and have more assets than you etc.

But your self-worth never shrinks irrespective of how much of yourself you give but rather multiplies.

The more you show love, respectful, loyal, truthful and generous towards others the more you feel fulfilled, happy and joyful from within.

The society today is facing high level of moral decadence everyday as a result of people seeking high net-worth in order to surpass or be at par with their peers or contemporaries.

All these has led to people losing who they truly are, forgetting who they are, the stuff they are made off as individuals and their true identity thrown to the trash. 

This way, they feel they would get the validation and acceptance of others just to boost their self-worth.

People's validation of you is not as important as what you say or think of yourself. Basing your worth on people's validation or society's high expectations of you can be highly detrimental to you in every aspect of your life.

It can lead to you living a competitive life, constantly comparing yourself with others which in turn can also lead to stress, pressure, anxiety and depression when you are unable to meet up.

When you live a competitive lifestyle, constantly comparing your life with that of others as well as trying to meet with the high expectations of society, it can lead to feelings of hopelessness, inadequacy  and the idea that having more rather than becoming more is much better. 

Having more can give you temporary happiness while becoming more (knowing your self worth, working on yourself and living by your standards) gives you joy from within, keeps you contented and much more happier in life.

To have a positive view of your self-worth, first know who you are as a person, identify the unique qualities in you that you are proud of such as being honest, disciplined, hardworking, dedicated to your job or craft, caring, trustworthy, knowing and pursuing your dreams/vision.

Knowing all these qualities and making good use of them especially in touching lives is what makes you special and unique which money or material gains (net-worth) can never buy.

Find moments in your life you were truly happy and felt good about yourself and what you did that was not associated with money, talk about them with friends and see how happy you would feel with no money attached to such moments.

Learn to shift your mindset from thinking your net-worth is your self-worth to enable you have a balanced mental, emotional and physical well being.

Spend time with people who talk more about pursuing their goals, touching lives, volunteering to be of help to others  than people who always talk about how much money they make, the number of physical assets they have and so on all in a bid to intimidate you.

Once you are able to identify your unique qualities, values and the things that truly make you happy, you would feel much more secure about who you truly are and be contented about where you are in life.

You would hardly feel the pressure from society, peers and friends who tend to make you feel insecure and inferior because you have a perceived low net-worth.

If you find it difficult to be happy with who you are from the inside, no amount of money or material gains can change that.

Know that you are worth much more than the things money can buy. You are important and valuable. You have so much with you to offer to society and valuable contributions to humanity than you can imagine only if you tap into the potentials in you.

Know that you are not a reflection of your net-worth. You are important and worth something much more.

Quote for the day - "From your self-worth, you can create a valuable net-worth." - Rhoda Amapakabo

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