In continuation of "Being Fearless and Passionate in the Pursuit of your Dreams." We would be looking at the remaining points made in the fireside chat of StartUp Grind, Jos that took place on the 16th of August.
In the fireside chat, we discussed how to pursue your dreams passionately and fearlessly against all odds in form of questions asked. You can read part 1 here
5. HOW DO YOU SURMOUNT AGGRESSIVE OBSTACLES ON YOUR PATH TO LIVING OUT YOUR DREAMS?
Life itself is full of challenges. At every stage of lives we get into, we encounter new challenges. Like they say " new levels, new devils." So it is when it comes to the pursuit of your dream.
As you pursue your dream, it evolves with time bringing challenges your way at every point in time but you grow into and with your dream when you overcome aggressive challenges.
In surmounting aggressive challenges you have to;
- See these challenges as part of your growth and learning process. Until you do this, you might find it difficult to move on in realizing your dream.
- Irrespective of how big that challenge might be with no possible way out, believe that you can overcome it and you will. It starts with the mind.
6. HOW DO YOU HANDLE FAILURES WHEN PURSUING YOUR DREAMS?
When God laid down the plans for our lives, He never said it would be easy. He never said we would never experience setbacks, failures or mistakes. Neither did he say the success of our dreams is dependent on our perfection.
We are not perfect beings, only God is. As we move towards the realization of our dreams, we are bound to make mistakes or experience failures in life but what would make us go further is not remaining defeated.
The number of times you fail or make mistakes does not make you a failure but remaining defeated and staying on the floor is what makes you a failure.
Failing at one time in life or the other gives you the opportunity to learn from your mistakes thereby making you stronger and better in life especially in the pursuit of your dreams.
So many people have given up on their dreams because they made mistakes or experienced failures but it ought not to be so. How do we grow without these things?
To overcome failures or mistakes experienced in the pursuit of your dreams, you need to;
- Reach out to survivors. These survivors are those people on same path as you yet doing so well and ahead of you in the pursuit of their dreams that you admire so much.
Learn their success stories and see how they overcame failures. Every successful person we see today, had experienced failures in time past.
Some time in February this year (2020), I was invited to give a presentation and in the process of giving the presentation, I blanked out twice on stage and it was very obvious.
Even if I later finished the presentation, I was very devastated and disappointed in me. I knew what I was going to talk about on stage yet blanked out not once but twice.
Despite me feeling like a failure, after that same event, my pastor's wife approached me and said I was going to speak on Mothers' day and I was like even after I had messed up on stage? her response was "Only you know that one"..
The truth is, not everyone cares about your failures. All they want to see is the potentials in you and when they do, your mistakes or failures wont matter to them.
While preparing for the Mother's Day speech and at the same time trying to rebuild my confidence cos the previous failure was always staring at me, I came across Joyce Meyer's video on Youtube "Seven Secrets of The Confident Woman." where she spoke of having a similar experience.
Hearing her own story of how she blanked out on stage not uttering even a word made me realize that it could happen to anyone and your failures only enable you to learn from your mistakes then become stronger and better in your craft.
In your failures and mistakes lies your success stories meant to inspire and motivate people live their dreams especially for the upcoming generation.
- Learn to put the past behind you. Let your past mistakes and failures remain in the past while you forge ahead. Don't let those failures hold you down from achieving your dreams.
Every successful person you see today has experienced one form of failure or the the other in life yet they kept moving reaching where they are today.
- Fight through the failure at all times even when it keeps steering you in the face. Life will knock you down severally but if you refuse to give up and stay down down, it won't beat you.
7. SHOULD MARRIED PEOPLE GIVE UP ON THEIR DREAMS?
Every married person can still pursue his/her dream despite the marital status. Being married should not stop you from pursuing your dreams as an individual.
Your dream is the very essence of your being and it is what gives you a sense of fulfilment and satisfaction, not your marital status.
One thing that will keep you going in that marriage when faced with a serious challenge is your dream. It shifts your focus from the challenge towards achieving your set goal in life.
No doubt, marriage can be overwhelming sometimes , but you can always find time to pursue your dreams.
- It's essential you get married to a person who has an understanding of what a dream is and supports you in achieving your dream. Your spouse or partner might not have same dream
- Marry someone who has a vision of his/her own. Because he/she has a vision, it would be easier for them to help you pursue yours.
- A happy relationship should encourage you to pursue your dreams, so be in one.
8. WHAT ADVICE CAN YOU GIVE TO PEOPLE WHOSE CHALLENGE IS MONEY IN PURSUING THEIR DREAMS?
Money has been a major challenge in the pursuit of dreams for so many people and we all need the money.
But should we just sit down and fold our hands waiting for manna to fall from heaven or an assistance from someone before we start pursuing our dreams?
The answer is a capital NO because we might have to wait till eternity for that to happen. Money is not just all that is needed to pursue your dreams, so you;
- Gotta start from where you are with what you have. Start with the little you have in your local environment.
- If you need money so badly, then get a job, start a business and earn a living no matter how little or insignificant the job or money you get might be.
- Prioritize your finances and make sure part of it is allocated to the pursuit of your dreams.
- Use the little income you have to do the little you can in the pursuit of your dreams. Never despise the days of your little beginning ( Zechariah 4:10).
I have a very time consuming job that hardly gives me time to face my dream but I still find the little time I get to give it that little attention and if I had all the finance to pursue my dream, I probably would have left the job but I'm still here cos I need the money😊 .
I also do some side hustles doing some little businesses by the side cos the money is never enough even for one's self how much more pursuing your dreams.😊
What God has in your future, is far greater than what is in your past. Just keep moving on surmounting every obstacle that comes your way.
Look beyond your past, failures and mistakes but set your eyes on the prize that inspires and motivates you to keep pushing.
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