THE PERFECT PARTNER

We all imagine the kind of partner we wish to have or dream of. In our heads is that perfect partner we so desire for ourselves.

We all crave for that one person who would understand us, love us, cherish us and be there for us at all times.

Our definition of a perfect love is finding a perfect partner, that special someone  who will offer the the perfect balance of sameness. One with whom we can create a deep and meaningful connection.

Characters in romantic movies also became the benchmark with which we use to size up our love interests. 

These characters make us look for prince in shining armours to come sweep us of our feet wanting the whole fairy tale that comes with romantic movies.

Unfortunately, all these set us up for relationship disasters with the idealized expectations in our heads making every partner we see an object of our desires or imaginations.

The initial love we had or thought we felt for the other person wears out once reality dawns on us and we begin to see the real and imperfect person before us and not the idealized love partner. 

This has been one of the major reasons why we have so many broken relationships and marriages in our societies. 

People begin to find it hard to live with or accept the flaws of their partners because of the idealized expectations they once had of the person. 

This doesn't mean we give up on the kind of relationship we so desire or the dream of having a sound and sweet healthy relationship but we just have to take off the idea of having a perfect partner.

No partner is perfect and there is no perfect relationship. We either accept the flaws of our partners and make perfect every imperfections of our relationships. 

It is not about finding the perfect partner but seeing the perfections in the imperfections of your partner. A perfect partner only exists in our imaginations.

We are all imperfect beings bringing our imperfections into a relationship which makes the relationship an imperfect one. But until we look beyond these imperfections, we will never have a healthy and sweet relationship.

It's great to know what we want in a partner without taking the imperfections of the person out of our minds and heads. Infact, in life generally, you ought to know what you want and then go for it.

Before searching for a perfect partner, ask yourself if you are a perfect being who is taking every perfection into that relationship.

If you want a perfect partner, you must first become that perfect partner you desire in someone else. You can only attract what you are.

If you want a partner who is trustworthy, hardworking, honest, transparent, loving, caring and all that you desire in a partner, then you must first become these things before you desire them in someone else.

The shift has to begin with you. Look inward and check what needs to be adjusted within you that would prepare you for a healthy relationship.

Such adjustments could include your personal outlook, disposition, traits, dress sense, lifestyle and so on. Doing these things will make you attract your kind of partner whose imperfections would become perfect in your eyes.

Remove every fantasy from your eyes and mind replacing it with mature disposition that will enable you accept the flaws of a potential love interest.

Learning to accept the flaws of a potential partner gives you peace in that relationship and keeps you in that relationship for a long time if not a lifetime. 

Quote for the day " Finding the perfect partner is like finding dinosaurs in the 21st century." Unknown.

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