KNOW WHAT YOU WANT SO YOU RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU DON'T WANT IN RELATIONSHIPS

"Desire without knowledge is not good - how much more will hasty feet miss the way!" ( Proverbs 19:2)

Being in a relationship can be fun and sweet but frustrating at the same time. It's hard enough to be in one but much harder when you don't know what you are looking for in a relationship.

Too many people are eager to get into a relationship without knowing what they want hence the frustration from the relationship.

Some people  just want casual relationship, some want just a one night stand while there are those who seek commitment in a relationship.

There are also those who go into a relationship due to loneliness, some do it because all their friends are into "loving relationships"(Peer pressure).

Some do it because of parental or societal pressure, so as a result of all these, all such people want is just to be in a relationship without having a personal knowledge of what they want in life concerning a relationship.

Just like Proverbs 19:2 says, desiring is not good enough but having knowledge of what you want will go a long way to help you in life.

Same thing applies to dating or any given relationship. Desiring to be in that relationship is not good enough but having sufficient knowledge of what you want is key.

Society does no one any favour when it comes to relationships, dating or even communication. Get to know what you want not society dictating for you. 

Knowing what you want in a relationship will make you hold your guard and stand your ground with head held high irrespective of the pressure faced or how long it seems like you are getting nowhere.

People might say you are picky and selective because you just don't give in to any Tom, Dick and Harry that comes your way. And that is because you simply know what you want. 

They say age is not on your side anymore, but you are not moved simply because you know what you want. 

When you know what you want in a relationship, it becomes easy to recognize what you don't want in that relationship and this saves you lots of stress.

If you don't personally define what you want and then go into any relationship, people will do it their own way for you and you might end up being frustrated in the relationship.

WAYS TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

1. GO TO GOD : Go to God first and search His words concerning what you want. This will go a long way to help you realize you deserve better.

2. TAKE YOUR TIME : Take your time to be in a relationship. Don't rush into one because you are lonely, depressed or pressured. There is a difference being alone and feeling lonely. You can be alone and not feel lonely especially when you know what you want in a relationship. 

3. KNOW YOURSELF : Have a self awareness of who you are. Knowing you saves you lots of stress generally in life. Know your worth and what you deserve. Knowing yourself enables you know what you don't ever want in life.

As a lady, know that you deserve a man who would treat you like the royalty you are, one who has a delicate heart that needs to be tendered with care and as a man, you need to be with a woman who considers you her queen and respects you alot.

4. RESPECT YOURSELF : Know and see your value else you will get trapped in an unhealthy relationship.

5. NEVER DATE JUST FOR FUN : Never date just for the fun of it. Never accept what you don't like just for fun. If you can't introduce your partner to your friends and loved ones, then you don't need to be in that relationship. 

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