One of the bone of contention in relationships is the issue of submission from a woman to her husband and if a man lives up to his responsibility rather than exercise his authority as a man.
You hear some men say certain women find it hard to submit while women on the other hand would say some men don't live up to their responsibilities to earn submission from women how much more asserting authority on them.
This has led to so many broken relationships, marriages and sometimes couples just leaving as room mates and not lovers or partners.
Taking these two concepts - Submission and Responsibility into consideration, we would be looking at submission today.
SUBMISSION : Submission is not surrendering your will to another through the use of force but willingly yielding to the will of another person. It is placing others before you or putting their needs above yours willingly and not forcefully.
Submission is first made to God before it is done to a man. God has never and will never force any man to submit to Him likewise, no one is expected to forcefully submit to any man if it is not done willingly. "Jesus said unto him, Thou shall love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thine soul and with all thine mind." (Mathew 22:37).
There are men today who misuse or misunderstand the term submission and then use it to maltreat and become abusive to their wives expecting their wives to do and become the unimaginable all in the name of being submissive.
God has made the man the head of the home in a marriage (Ephesians 5:23) and the head of the home, the man is expected to lead and guide his family in the fear of the Lord while the woman is expected to be subject to her husband's headship or leadership but before then, both partners are admonished to submit to one another in the fear of God (mutual submission). Where this is not done, neither of them would truly understand what submission actually is and to use it rightly.
The relationship between a husband and a wife is not that of a master and a servant but of a lover and a beloved. Ephesians 5:22-33 was written to encourage unity in marriage and not the subjugation of on by another.
It is stated in Ephesians 5:22 that wives submit to their husbands like they are doing it unto God and husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). There is a role for everyone to play effectively for the survival of a marriage /relationship.
Some of the men who complain of the lack of submission from their wives have not learned to love their wives the right way to demand submission from them. Loving your wife the way Christ loves the church and ready to give your life for her will make your wife naturally submit to you.
When a man loves and submits to God, leading his wife with a servant's heart and nurturing her God given talents, she can confidently submit to him, leaning on him and trusting his covering.
A woman's submission to her husband does not mean she is to be a slave in that relationship/marriage but rather a mutual submission on love yielding to one another and not demanding our own way but letting love rule.
When submission from a wife is over stressed to the point that she is expect to obey every dictate from her husband even when such dictates are ungodly then this can create problems in the relationship or marriage hence the reasons for many broken homes and relationships.
There are men who use the excuse of the Bible stating a wife is to be subjected ( Ephesians 5:24) to her husband to wreck havoc in their relationships all in the name of demanding for submission.
Women are to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. The question now is, will Christ ever ask the church to do evil things or dictate ungodly things to the church? As the head of the home just as Christ is the head of the Church, let the love of Christ be your guide in your relationship/marriage.
No woman is expected to submit to evil dictates of her husband in the name trying to be a good partner or wife. In chapter 5 of Acts of the apostles, Sappira lost her life because she submitted to the evil dictates of her husband, Ananias. Submitting to the evil dictates of a man in a relationship or marriage only brings destruction to that relationship/marriage.
With all that being said, there is nothing as worse as having an overbearing or dominating wife who feels her husband is not worth her respect or submission even when she has a good man by her side. (Proverbs 21:9).
There are women who do better than their husbands financially or otherwise and as a result try to lord over their husbands. They bring their bossy attitude into their relationships failing to recognize the place of authority and submission.
Such women bring the authority they have at work or exercise over their subordinates to their relationships or marriages. A woman might be a boss in her place of work, business or career but a wife or a woman in her marriage or relationship who is expected to submit to her man.
A woman with such a attitude can ruin her marriage or relationship with her own hands. Proverbs says "A wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman destroys her home.
Women need to submit and respect their husbands. The Bible admonishes a woman to submit to her husband in everything( not evil things) and to respect him. Men need these especially respect from their wives. When this is lacking from the wife, he too will find it difficult to love her in return like the way he should.
No responsible and reasonable man will maltreat or enslave his wife who is respectful and submissive towards him. Only an irresponsible man will do otherwise.
You hear some men say certain women find it hard to submit while women on the other hand would say some men don't live up to their responsibilities to earn submission from women how much more asserting authority on them.
This has led to so many broken relationships, marriages and sometimes couples just leaving as room mates and not lovers or partners.
Taking these two concepts - Submission and Responsibility into consideration, we would be looking at submission today.
SUBMISSION : Submission is not surrendering your will to another through the use of force but willingly yielding to the will of another person. It is placing others before you or putting their needs above yours willingly and not forcefully.
Submission is first made to God before it is done to a man. God has never and will never force any man to submit to Him likewise, no one is expected to forcefully submit to any man if it is not done willingly. "Jesus said unto him, Thou shall love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thine soul and with all thine mind." (Mathew 22:37).
There are men today who misuse or misunderstand the term submission and then use it to maltreat and become abusive to their wives expecting their wives to do and become the unimaginable all in the name of being submissive.
God has made the man the head of the home in a marriage (Ephesians 5:23) and the head of the home, the man is expected to lead and guide his family in the fear of the Lord while the woman is expected to be subject to her husband's headship or leadership but before then, both partners are admonished to submit to one another in the fear of God (mutual submission). Where this is not done, neither of them would truly understand what submission actually is and to use it rightly.
The relationship between a husband and a wife is not that of a master and a servant but of a lover and a beloved. Ephesians 5:22-33 was written to encourage unity in marriage and not the subjugation of on by another.
It is stated in Ephesians 5:22 that wives submit to their husbands like they are doing it unto God and husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). There is a role for everyone to play effectively for the survival of a marriage /relationship.
Some of the men who complain of the lack of submission from their wives have not learned to love their wives the right way to demand submission from them. Loving your wife the way Christ loves the church and ready to give your life for her will make your wife naturally submit to you.
When a man loves and submits to God, leading his wife with a servant's heart and nurturing her God given talents, she can confidently submit to him, leaning on him and trusting his covering.
A woman's submission to her husband does not mean she is to be a slave in that relationship/marriage but rather a mutual submission on love yielding to one another and not demanding our own way but letting love rule.
When submission from a wife is over stressed to the point that she is expect to obey every dictate from her husband even when such dictates are ungodly then this can create problems in the relationship or marriage hence the reasons for many broken homes and relationships.
There are men who use the excuse of the Bible stating a wife is to be subjected ( Ephesians 5:24) to her husband to wreck havoc in their relationships all in the name of demanding for submission.
Women are to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. The question now is, will Christ ever ask the church to do evil things or dictate ungodly things to the church? As the head of the home just as Christ is the head of the Church, let the love of Christ be your guide in your relationship/marriage.
No woman is expected to submit to evil dictates of her husband in the name trying to be a good partner or wife. In chapter 5 of Acts of the apostles, Sappira lost her life because she submitted to the evil dictates of her husband, Ananias. Submitting to the evil dictates of a man in a relationship or marriage only brings destruction to that relationship/marriage.
With all that being said, there is nothing as worse as having an overbearing or dominating wife who feels her husband is not worth her respect or submission even when she has a good man by her side. (Proverbs 21:9).
There are women who do better than their husbands financially or otherwise and as a result try to lord over their husbands. They bring their bossy attitude into their relationships failing to recognize the place of authority and submission.
Such women bring the authority they have at work or exercise over their subordinates to their relationships or marriages. A woman might be a boss in her place of work, business or career but a wife or a woman in her marriage or relationship who is expected to submit to her man.
A woman with such a attitude can ruin her marriage or relationship with her own hands. Proverbs says "A wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman destroys her home.
Women need to submit and respect their husbands. The Bible admonishes a woman to submit to her husband in everything( not evil things) and to respect him. Men need these especially respect from their wives. When this is lacking from the wife, he too will find it difficult to love her in return like the way he should.
No responsible and reasonable man will maltreat or enslave his wife who is respectful and submissive towards him. Only an irresponsible man will do otherwise.
Quote for the day - "Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect." - William P. Young.
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