"It's not what they call you but what you answer to" is a quote from W. C Fields that serves as a mantra for me especially when I hear some negative name callings or tags placed on me by certain people. There are people with mean words who will always call you or tag you with negative names irrespective of who you are, how nice you are or how generous you tend to be. "There is one whose rash words are like swords thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." (Proverbs 12:18). Some people say mean words unintentionally while there are those who say them intentionally but whatever be the case the words came out anyway.
In this world we live in, there are mean people in every sphere of life that we come across everyday; at our worship centers, work places, schools, social gatherings, the relationships we form, etc who are mediocres full of limitations trying to place their limitations on you. They will call you all sorts of names to intimidate you and bring you down emotionally. Sometimes they call you names due to your past failures, mistakes or experiences believing you can't achieve a thing or amount to nothing in life but irrespective of what they call you, you decide what you answer to. In life, you become what you consistently pay attention to. If you keep paying attention to the negative words or keep feeding on the negative things and names they call you or tag you with, then you become what they call you but if you reject all the negative taggings on you and give yourself the name you want to become, then you become what you call yourself. What Has God called you or what does He say concerning you? whose report concerning you will you believe? God's or people's? Whichever one you pick and keep paying attention to will control the outcome of your life.
When people say mean things to you or call you bad names, they are challenging your self-esteem and only those with complex issues try to challenge one's self-esteem. Some of the people who try to place negative tags on you are people who actually know the kind of gift/great talent you possess and what you will turn out to become but do not want to believe or accept it. To some, they just don't believe anything good can come out of you hence the limitations they place on you. Giving in to the bad name calling or tags, lowers your self esteem but when you do not, you own up to your own self worth. Anyone who controls your self-esteem controls your life automatically.
People can't determine your destiny, only God does and you decide who you listen to - people or God. When God created you, he put in you part of himself and all you need to live your full potentials and purpose here on earth. Mediocres might be around you, the circumstance you find yourself in might be too challenging for you, people might want to judge you based on your past life style, previous failures, experiences or what they have always known you to be but never let these things rub off on you and deprive you of living your dreams.
God created you a smart, wise and an intelligent being with the capacity and ability to live your dreams. Everything you need to live the life you want and become what you have ever dreamed of is within you. God has put in you all you need to exhibit the talent and gift He has given you. You are the captain of your ship and you decide the direction your life sails to. Despite being created by God, He still gave you the power of choice to choose between good and evil, death and life. This makes you the captain of your life with the power to decide the direction your life sails to. So, you have the power of choice to either choose what people say about you or what God says about you. Whichever one you choose is what you answer to, name yourself and causes the direction of your life.
WHAT TO DO WHEN PEOPLE NAME OR TAG YOU NEGATIVELY
In this world we live in, there are mean people in every sphere of life that we come across everyday; at our worship centers, work places, schools, social gatherings, the relationships we form, etc who are mediocres full of limitations trying to place their limitations on you. They will call you all sorts of names to intimidate you and bring you down emotionally. Sometimes they call you names due to your past failures, mistakes or experiences believing you can't achieve a thing or amount to nothing in life but irrespective of what they call you, you decide what you answer to. In life, you become what you consistently pay attention to. If you keep paying attention to the negative words or keep feeding on the negative things and names they call you or tag you with, then you become what they call you but if you reject all the negative taggings on you and give yourself the name you want to become, then you become what you call yourself. What Has God called you or what does He say concerning you? whose report concerning you will you believe? God's or people's? Whichever one you pick and keep paying attention to will control the outcome of your life.
When people say mean things to you or call you bad names, they are challenging your self-esteem and only those with complex issues try to challenge one's self-esteem. Some of the people who try to place negative tags on you are people who actually know the kind of gift/great talent you possess and what you will turn out to become but do not want to believe or accept it. To some, they just don't believe anything good can come out of you hence the limitations they place on you. Giving in to the bad name calling or tags, lowers your self esteem but when you do not, you own up to your own self worth. Anyone who controls your self-esteem controls your life automatically.
People can't determine your destiny, only God does and you decide who you listen to - people or God. When God created you, he put in you part of himself and all you need to live your full potentials and purpose here on earth. Mediocres might be around you, the circumstance you find yourself in might be too challenging for you, people might want to judge you based on your past life style, previous failures, experiences or what they have always known you to be but never let these things rub off on you and deprive you of living your dreams.
God created you a smart, wise and an intelligent being with the capacity and ability to live your dreams. Everything you need to live the life you want and become what you have ever dreamed of is within you. God has put in you all you need to exhibit the talent and gift He has given you. You are the captain of your ship and you decide the direction your life sails to. Despite being created by God, He still gave you the power of choice to choose between good and evil, death and life. This makes you the captain of your life with the power to decide the direction your life sails to. So, you have the power of choice to either choose what people say about you or what God says about you. Whichever one you choose is what you answer to, name yourself and causes the direction of your life.
WHAT TO DO WHEN PEOPLE NAME OR TAG YOU NEGATIVELY
IGNORE : One of the best things to do is to simply ignore. You know yourself better than anyone else and you know where you are going to in life so learn to ignore every bad naming or tagging attached to you. It is commonly said that "silence is the best answer to a fool." Rather than trying to respond or reply the bullying of others towards you through their words, ignore them. It's not every fight you are meant to engage in. Know when to walk away and live your fights to God. Each time you waste trying to fight back or reply every negative name callings, it's a time meant for useful ventures but wasted fighting a fight you ought not to fight but ignore. Each time you react when negative name tags are placed on you, you give the name taggers more power over your life but when you ignore, they will realize they have no hold on you and move on to the next target.
BE POSITIVE : For every negative tag placed on you, turn it to positive tags. People will always say things about you. That's their filtered opinion about you which they are entitled to but doesn't make it a reality or a fact. How you respond to such negative tags is your responsibility. You are not responsible for how how people act towards you but you are responsible for your reactions towards them. If they call you a failure, your response should be replacing their negative tags with positive ones by calling yourself a success. If they say you will amount to nothing, let them know that God created you for a purpose which will be fulfilled here on earth and so you will amount to something. Let your words stand out against every negative words directed at you. Your words are like seeds that you keep giving life to as long as you keep saying them. So replace the negative words from people with the positive words you keep saying to yourself. Proverbs 18:1 says " Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits." The words you speak into your life daily become fruits in the future that you would have to eat some day, so speak positive words against the negative words and thoughts that come to you daily so that the outcome (fruits) becomes positive.
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CREATE A VIEW OF YOURSELF: How do you view yourself? In God's eyes or in the eyes of others. The view you give yourself determines how far you go in life. Each time you let the views of others about you become predominant in your life, your self esteem is lowered, your dreams are short lived if ever lived while your talents and gifts become hidden. You become what they say you are and not what God says you are. This limits you big time. Anyone who controls your self esteem automatically controls your life, but having a view of yourself puts you in charge of the affairs of your life.
Never let people make you discount yourself through their words. You are a God's masterpiece filled with what no one else can offer. You are a unique personality with a unique gift, talent and purpose to fulfill here on earth. Keep saying what you want and not dwelling on what they call you.
Quote for the day - " When the negative thoughts come - and they will; they come to us all - it is not enough to not just dwell on it...You've got to replace it with a positive thought." Joel Osteen
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