I saw a movie titled not easily broken and I got the below inspiring thought from the movie, it goes thus.
When God created Adam he instructed him to do three things namely;
1. Work
2. Cultivate
3. Protect
Down through history men have always been measured by how hard they work, cultivated and how well they protect their wives and children. In those old days’ women saw their men as conquerors, providers, heroes but somewhere along the line that changed.
Women started becoming their own heroes maybe it was because their men forgot how to be heroes or because women don’t want to be protected anymore or maybe because women had to become their own heroes because of the pain they endure in life.
But whatever the cause maybe, the world took away a man’s reasons for being a man, they told him he was not important anymore and when that happens, they turn the whole world upside down (end of citation).
The above is a true fact of who a real man should be, I kept wondering because prior to my seeing the movie, I had met friends who have been trying very hard to convince me that marrying a working class lady, an independent woman is the best for any man simply because they think she will assist them in shouldering marital and family financial responsibilities.
This kept me on my feet, I went back memory lane and discovered that there came a time when young beautiful damsel were more interested in men that are already established to cater for their needs otherwise you call it family responsibilities. The society then frowned on these ladies with such mind set and called them gold diggers but unfortunately today the same mentality as been transfused into the men.
If you look at the society today, you will discover that marriages are no longer the way it used to be, women have taken over the leadership position of the home consequently abusing the original plan of God, and when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable.
What makes a man is not his masculine structure, his ability to impregnate a woman or even his male organ but rather it is in his ability to exercise dominion over all of God’s creatures including women by providing for them, tending them and protecting them.
Men should come out of that primitive mentality of looking for an already made lady that will take over the rightful and God ordained responsibilities due to their inefficiencies in exercising their dominion. It is absurd to think that after abusing the purpose of a thing, you can still yield the desired result. When trying to put on a TV and you keep pressing the volume button instead of the power button it will never respond.
There is no way an average woman will ever respect a man when he fails to meet up with his manly responsibilities of working, cultivating and protecting his family both financially and otherwise. Until men begin to act like real men by doing the needful as expected of them, women will find it difficult to take their rightful place of being submissive to a man’s leadership, rather they will be disrespectful, arrogant and authoritative.
Need I forget to say, there is no crime in marrying an already made lady if that is God’s purpose for you. Like one of my counselors, Mrs. Rachael will say, love should not be tied to any need because when the need is satisfied or not satisfied, anyway you look at it, the love disappears.
When a man chooses to marry a woman because she is already established, what will happen when the woman loses her source of income after marriage? Then the marriage will crash, when you have a wrong motive towards a just and God ordained institution like marriage, you will definitely achieve the wrong result of contention, disappointment and broken home at the end.
I will conclude by urging our men to take full responsibility of working, cultivating and protecting the financial and moral needs of their wives and stop being lazy but rather be that Real Man that work around the clock to provide the basic needs of his spouse, cultivate the enabling environment for love, peace, happiness and fulfillment. Above all protect them from this wishy-washy mentality of women being the bread winner that is abusing God’s purpose in marriage. Men please do the right thing so you can get the right result of a happy home.
Please watch out for THE REAL WOMAN.
God bless you.
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